I’m a hot mess…

So, my soon-to-be wife is the president of the Gay Straight Alliance at her college. She and her group are having a debate-like discussion meeting with the Catholics on Campus group (or whatever they’re called). The groups exchanged some media to review and stimulate discussion. My wife’s group sent the other a fantastic documentary called, Fish Out of Water. We were lucky enough to have been able to see it when it premiered at the Reeling Film Festival in Chicago. I highly recommend it.

You can purchase a copy of Fish Out of Water here:


The Catholics on Campus (or whatever they’re called) sent the GSA a radio show hosted by this ridiculous priest. It’s more like a sermon. I will admit I couldn’t listen to the whole thing. When he equated gay marriage with the legalization of rape or the legalization of pedophilia I had to stop. That was the most disgusting thing I have ever heard. I don’t think I need to delve into extraordinary explanations about why that argument is repulsive.

His arguments are all about shock value, (which he admits), saying he wants you to feel squeamish about his “graphic explanation” of the way two men make love. (Which really wasn’t all that graphic. It gets more graphic on The L Word.) It should gross you out and if it does (which it should), why are you defending it, he says.

He focuses solely on the sexual aspect of the relationship. He does not talk about the loving interaction of day to day life.  The gay and lesbian community don’t want to get married just to screw, buddy. It’s about making dinner together, watching a movie, going for a walk. Not worrying that your partner can’t take your child to the hospital because the second parent adoption hasn’t gone through yet. It’s about sitting by your partner in the hospital if they are unwell and being able to bury them in the manner in which you decided (together) you wanted. It’s about not having to pay huge amounts of inheritance tax on what has belonged to you for 50 years, just because some bureaucrat doesn’t acknowledge the love you carried for your partner for years.

Fr. Bigotry also claims that judges are “out-stepping” their authority by going against the will of the people to allow gay marriage. Like, when the will of the people said that inter-racial marriage was bad, right? What if the will of the people ruled that the bigotry of the Catholic Church was no longer allowed in their community? I’m sure there would be an explosion of injunctions and legal intervention and claims of discrimination on behalf of the church. Would this man of the cloth say that the church should abide by the will of the people? Doubt it.

I am keeping this short, my South-Side Irish is getting all bubbly under the surface, which makes my speech a hell of a lot more colorful and I don’t want to demean my argument by getting fresh. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. So, I included a link to the hogwash.

Have a listen for yourself.



Copyright 2011 Michelle Cahill


6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Cathy Berlin-Obregon
    Apr 04, 2011 @ 11:19:49

    You are always spot on correct, girl!


  2. Michelle
    Apr 04, 2011 @ 11:36:39

    Thanks, Cathy! It took a lot to keep the language clean for the kids on this one!


  3. Shanna
    Apr 04, 2011 @ 11:49:58

    The group is called Theology on Campus. They’re not all Catholic. And, disgustingly, it was a faculty member who picked that particular radio show, not the group itself.

    I have been to the church where that Priest is from. It was certainly an interesting experience. But, even having met him, this radio sermon surprised me. It’s repulsive. (I have notes, but not with me. I’ll comment again tomorrow)

    Also, we chose ‘A Fish Out of Water’ specifically because it doesn’t seem (to us, anyway) to be inflammatory or confrontational in any way (but maybe that’s a bias on our part). Granted, there is no Catholic representation in ‘Fish’ (because the clergy members would not talk to the crew), but I was certainly not expecting to receive something so preachy and, well, conservative as this radio segment in return.

    And I agree completely about same-sex marriage not being about sex, any more than heterosexual marriage is. Why is it that when someone says “I’m gay”, people automatically think about who that person has sex with. When someone says “I’m straight”, do we instantly get an image of them in bed with someone?

    My decision to marry you, my wonderful soon-to-be-wife, was about the future, not the bedroom. Our marriage is about kids and cats and money and medicine and dinners and family vacations and our home, and all the other things that matter. REALLY matter. Does that sound so different from a hetero marriage? And if marrying you is going to send me to ‘hell’, then I guess I should buy some shorts. 🙂


  4. Michelle
    Apr 04, 2011 @ 12:03:26

    Do I really need to reply to that? Isn’t she wonderful ladies and gents?


  5. Caitlin
    Apr 04, 2011 @ 18:02:35

    I just have to say that “COC” is a much better name for them than “TOC.”


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